Re: how can I tell?

Posted by Ron on August 07, 2003 at 20:39:55:

In Reply to: Re: how can I tell? posted by Irish Kelly on August 07, 2003 at 19:28:06:

: : : Ok first, this is my opinion, others might disagree. But if a woman can't trust you enough to tell you if she is pregnant with your child or not, she is not worth being with. By what you described, you guys have a relationship and I would expect her to be more open and more grown up about the situation. Also, by wanting to have unprotected sex all the time, it seems to me as if she is trying to get pregnant at all costs and you might know why better than we do. I suggest having a serious talk with her and confronting her on what is really going on. Why doesn't she want to use protection? Why is she being so sneeky about something you should be part of, and I would seriously take a hard look at this relationship and ask myself - Is this really going anywhere? Can I trust this woman? I think you know the answer to those questions and you need to reflect what it.

: : I totally agree with you on this one. I did the same thing with my b/f always had unportated sex's cause i wanted a baby but i was smart enough to take a test, sorry if that's alittle to mean. If she can't do that i would tell her the relationship is over.

: Ron
: I think itis time to start looking or a new relationship. She is playing games with you. Could she be holding this over your head for some reason? Unfortunately there is no way for you to tell without her knowing. Lets try and figure it out on the chances though. You sayher last period was on the 5th of what month? Also do you know the cycle? Like is she every 28 days? If you know this information, and we know the date that you had unprotected sex, we can try and figure out her most fertile days.
: You sound like a really nice and caring guy, so its her loss. We are here to help you!

I thank everyone for you advice and support. To add to things, we had planned to go to my parents places Today tomorrow and Saturday ( I was going to build my father a new chimney), but she could not go because she adviced me she had to work with her sisters in thier little side business. I reluctantly, but understandedly said ok. Today I find she didn't have to help and did nothing. I told her that because of our change we missed seeing my uncle (who scheduled his vacation time to see me), and interupted my time with my family (who are very important too me...at which she hung up the phone and will not return my calls....

I am sorry that this is becoming less (hopefully) a maternity issue, and more a relationship issue. I am so unwilling to let this realtionship go, because I find it hard to find...well relationships...but I am at a point of frustration...I guess I just need to relax and try not to be upset...but I do not "give" to someone easily and I am finding "what I should do difficult"...

anyway...l thanks again.